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Chapter 9: Communication and Conflict Resolution in Marriages and Families



Multiple Choice
Identify the letter of the choice that best completes the statement or answers the question.
 

 1. 

The looking glass self is:
a.
the process whereby people come to see themselves as others see them
b.
a narcissistic phenomenon in which people have an unrealistic view of themselves
c.
a process whereby people look at themselves and have a conflict about the direction in which they should go
d.
the self one sees in the mirror "the morning alter" a serious fight with the partner, or, indeed, on any occasion where self-assessment occurs (also called "the Person in the Mirror")
 

 2. 

Attribution is:
a.
the ascribing of certain character traits to persons
b.
feeling that a man or woman has many of the attributes that society says make a person socially attractive
c.
the process whereby some reasons are found for family events that need explaining so that temporary sense can be made from them
d.
one of the six methods mentioned by Martinelli as "fair fighting techniques"
 

 3. 

Focusing on one family member to blame for almost everything that goes wrong in a family is what is meant by:
a.
gaslighting
b.
passive-aggression
c.
mixed message
d.
scapegoating
 

 4. 


"Gaslighting is best exemplified by which of the following remarks from a husband to his wife?
a.
"I personally prefer the natural light of candles to the artificial light from bulbs".
b.
"Every time you balance the checkbook, you make math errors. Our accountant
says the errors are in your handwriting. Ask her if you don't believe me".
c.
"Who turned the television on? You turned it on. You must be losing your mind".
d.
"Don't turn the ceiling lights on. It's much more pleasant with the light coming from the fireplace. You look even more attractive by natural light".
 

 5. 

Conflict taboo refers to which of these?
a.
jealous arguments started as a result of jealousies or sexual rivalries
b.
the idea that taboos create conflicts between partners if the taboos are not openly discussed
c.
the concept that close kin become political adversaries when there is family conflict
d.
none of these
 

 6. 

According to the textbook, anger "insteads":
a.
are a list of conflict techniques that can be used to take the place of angry confrontations and tend to produce healthier outcomes
b.
are derived from behavior modification, and are part of family fighting techniques often taught in family therapy settings
c.
may be more socially acceptable, but they can be self-destructive kinds of behavior
d.
none of the above
 

 7. 

Passive-aggression is a concept that refers to:
a.
the feeling that one's spouse is being both passive and aggressive, simultaneously
b.
the view that one should be more passive in the face of aggression
c.
the view that one should not be passive in the face of aggression
d.
none of the above
 

 8. 

Which of the following were Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse?
a.
contempt
b.
defensiveness
c.
stonewalling
d.
all of the above
 

 9. 


Which of these is a method recommended by the text to avoid attacks on a partner's self-esteem?
a.
Use "I-statements."
b.
Avoid topics in which the partner's self-esteem is an issue.
c.
Avoid topics that could have the effect of damaging the partner's self-esteem.
d.
Take as much of the blame on oneself as is possible; it tends to lower the partner's tension level and make talk more low-key, enhancing true communication
 

 10. 

Which of the following is one of the guidelines for bonding fights?
a.
Don't try to win.
b.
Avoid giving negative information to the partner.
c.
Try to present yourself as you would like to be, not as you think you are
d.
Fights should always end with an agreement between partners; or, "It's not over till it's over."
 



 
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